Mindfulness on the appreciation of others.
This is an exercise that I have never done enough off in the past. But in the last couple of years I have used this form of contemplation a lot more often and I have learnt to better understand and appreciate some of the people that I have known in my life.
This practice is about the appreciation of another human being. It is very easy to do; otherwise its value would have to be considered. And like all mindfulness practices it only takes a few minutes a day and it doesn’t matter when. Though at approximately the same time each day tends to act as a good reminder not to forget about it. Late afternoon has always been my best time.
I usually like to close my eyes for a short while and take a couple of deep breaths. I find that breathing in and out through my nose helps me to control the rhythm and the pace of my breathing; it also helps me to relax. Then I cast my mind and think of someone I care about. It doesn’t have to be the great love of my life. Not even necessarily a close family member or friend. Though most of the time this may be the case. Then I let my mind remember a small happy incident or mannerism or thing that, that person does. Something that I have gained joy from. I don’t want to contemplate on their whole life just some small part that I was able to share with them. Something that makes me feel happy that I know this person. I do not continue if negative feelings or unresolved issues come to the surface. These matters can be dealt with at other times. Why do such a thing when the other person does not consciously know and there is no recognition on their part for my thoughts?
Because I am genuinely realising why it is that I appreciate an individual thing that is part of the make-up of another person. Once an instant is done, it is gone but the vibration of its being, remembered by the witness, stays for as long as it is.