John Audet

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Of all the Things

Of all the Things

 

Of all the things which Wisdom procures for our happiness in life by far the greatest is the acquisition of friendship.

We ought to look for people to share our time with

Before we look for artificial pleasures and indulgences because to do so without a friend is the life of a scrounger.

 

Is the procurement of love the ultimate act of selfishness?

Do we love another except for our own interest?

 

A foolish life is restless and disagreeable and is wholly engrossed with the future.

We are born but once

Twice we cannot be born and for everlasting this person we are today must cease to be.

But those who are not master of today puts off the right time.

Procrastination is the ruin of all life and therefore each of us is unprepared at death

He who does not live for tomorrow will meet what the future holds more pleasantly.

John Audet

Ariah Park

Ariah Park

 

 

“Old is old. There is no getting ‘round it.”

She viewed herself in the bathroom mirror.

“Maybe these lights are too bright or maybe a touch more make-up, no, old is old.”

Wendy-Ann Hogstead had the same job for 30 years. A good, well paid position with Helmsley, Helmsley & Helmsley a very large firm of corporate accountants in Sydney. For the last ten years she had been in charge of Acquisitions and Mergers. Most accountants would give their back teeth for such a job but Wendy-Ann found it uninspiring. It was dreary to the point that she felt brain dead. Her life was boring and stagnating. Married twice, both had been disasters. She was a well groomed, slender woman with a good bone and facial structure. She spoke well; she walked well and had excellent taste. She was an attractive 55 year old middle-aged woman. Rarely did she need to wear much make up.

She had a Friday morning ritual; before work she met up with her friend Jeannie for coffee at Koffee Kulture. You know the one. It’s on Willoughby road across from the church that serves meals to the homeless and I think that they are sometimes able to organise a few beds for them. It was a miserable morning cold, drizzly and bleak. It was the sort of morning that if you didn’t have to go to work, there would be no reason to get out of bed. No latté this morning, a long flat black! Jeannie was also single and about the same age with perhaps a few more bumps than would be considered desirable but she wore well designed clothes that made up for that slight indiscretion.

“Why is it so difficult?” commented Jeanie.

“It never used to be like this. Why 20 years ago there was more spice. And men look at the crop of losers!”

“Good looking men that were not afraid to spend a few dollars to take a woman out have faded from the landscape.”

Wendy-Ann gave a ridiculing half-laugh.

“Not like the cheap skates that we’ve both met lately.” Maintaining the smirk on her face.

“They even expect, mind you, for you to pay half the bill when they take you out. The nerve.”

Jeanie was getting a little frustrated.

Wendy-Ann continued.

“I just want to meet a decent, good looking bloke. He doesn’t have to be rich, just a good job where I don’t have to look at the prices when I go to the supermarket or wear last year’s fashions. Where we can take an overseas holiday once or twice a year and live in a decent house in a good area. Surely they still exist!”

“And for good sake looks after himself and keeps his weight under control.”

Was Jeannie’s contribution; obviously considering her own body to be perfectly natural and attractive.

The women’s get together ended on the usual negative note. Jeannie took the 257 to Chatswood. Wendy-Ann took the next bus that went to the city and those maddening crowds. But she didn’t go to the office instead she went to Forbes Tavern. Today she needed to think.

“Bit early Wendy-Ann?”

All good barmen know their regulars by name.

“Never too early to sort things out, but I will start with a black coffee.”

Responsibly, she rang the office to say she was not coming in and began to ponder on the life she was living.

By lunch time and a bottle of good South Australian Sauvignon Blanc, at least at $47 a bottle it should be, she had made her decision. That included the time to shoo away the bar vermin who believe that a woman by herself in a bar is fair game.

Wendy-Ann Hogstead arranged her long service leave, rented out her flat and by the following Saturday she was driving over the Blue Mountains towards Mudgee. She was going bush. Though she was not exactly sure where. Her plan, if you can call it that was to stay in country hotels and hope to meet a few locals and find more meaning to her life.

Ariah Park is a nice old town, a village really out the back of New South Wales. I think it is classified as part of the rich Riverina district. It has an ageing hotel, a brick two-storey affair but I cannot tell you what it is like inside because I have never been inside. The publican only opens up when he feels like it. So you have to be lucky to be passing by when he decides to open which is not very often. Obviously a man of independent means. The locals I am told go to the bowling club after five for a drink but there is only a serving back and tables and chairs set up for drinking, very unsociable if you want to get around and talk to other people. The main street where everything is boasts of the usual Diggers Memorial, dedicated to the soldiers to whom we owe our way of life to. Most of the shops are empty and rundown but there is the White Rose café. What small town is without one? But sadly the era of Greek immigrants owning them is long gone. There is a sort off collectables store that opens on Fridays and Sundays. An op shop/museum and some sort of shop selling mostly  food although the Post Office sells bread all $4.50 a loaf that’s the same bread I can buy from a supermarket at  $1.50 and there is a bit of a Produce come Hardware store. But the town is activity minded and boasts a swimming pool, tennis and netball complex, a large football oval with stands and facilities and of course a nine hole sand golf course.

It was on her 2cnd day of looking around the town that Wendy-Ann thought to try the advertised special of the day at the White Rose café; a roast beef roll with chips and gravy for $6.50.

“Come to try out the special, luv? It’s pretty good.” He was half way through his so that made him an authority.

“Same for you, dear?” A female voice rang out from somewhere out the back.

“Yes, please.”

“Take a seat, I’ll be right out.”

There was one table and 3 chairs or she could go outside and sit in the car and eat it.

“Do you mind if I join you?” was the timid request.

“Course not, Luv. My names Malcolm but everybody just calls me Mal. What’s yours?”

“Wendy-Ann.”

“I reckon ‘round here Wendy mint be the go.” She was taken back. A man in his early sixties, bald not shaved like middle-aged men do to hide their lack of the symbol of virility. He was quite a bit shorter, maybe 3or4 inches, than she was and a decent size gut that hung over the top of the belt on his shorts. Dressed rather poorly, by her standards. His hat, which was resting on one of the chairs, was grubby and out of shape. Even though she would not have been seen dead with the likes of Mal elsewhere else he was pleasant in his manner and they got into conversation together which couldn’t be helped sitting at the same café table.

“What do you do for a living, Mal?”

“I buy and sell old farm equipment to antique businesses in Melbourne and Sydney.”

“Is that regular work.”

Mal laughed.

“It is when I can get it. But I only have to worry about myself so it doesn’t matter too much.”

“You don’t have a family?”

“I went to Vietnam and stepped on a mine which affected the lower part of my body, so I decided that it would be unfair to get married when I couldn’t do the right thing and sire children. So I have remained celebrant and a bachelor.”

Wendy-Ann was intrigued by Mal’s down to earth honesty.

“If you like our town well enough and figured on staying I reckon someone like you would go well in the collectables business around here.”

“It’s a thought, maybe.”

She couldn’t get it out of her mind, what a good idea and if Mal was prepared to help her….”

What with Wendy’s accountancy background and Mal’s flair for the unusual The Teapot Shop was born. Selling old, collectable, tea pots preferably with family history attached and related tea making accessories, after all the area had been first settled by the English and Irish. So there was bound to be a good supply of stock. Mal arranged for Wendy to rent a vacant shop in the main street which had a small one bedroom flat attached to it. To help her get started he spoke to the owner who gave her the first six months’ rent free.

“It’s good for the town.”

This was with the proviso that she stayed at least 2 years and gave it a fair go.

Things started off fine but when things slowed down with fewer tourists during the winter months, she developed a cash flow problem. She was unable to continue buying stock. Mal as usual was full of good suggestions.

“What about extending your range to collectable silver spoons? A lot of country women collect silver tea spoons particularly when they have been given as trophies from the different Bowls clubs. It will give you a local trade rather than just relying on the tourists.”

And so an intimate relationship grew between two unlikely people; Wendy the sophisticated big city lady and Mal the plump, short, old, basic country bloke.

Jeannie came up for the October long week-end.

 Over coffee on the Monday morning before Jeannie went back to Sydney she felt the need to talk to her friend…

“Wendy-Ann I’m only telling you this because you are my best friend…. but how could you get involved with such a man?”

“Because…”

Jeannie interrupted.

“He’s such a looser. He’s got nothing>”

“Mal takes care of me.”

“How? He’s got no money or property not even a steady job.”

“Whatever he lacks I have.”

“Well what about your physical needs? His injuries have stopped that for 40 years.”

There was a nasty snicker in her tone.

“Oh Jeannie,” a big smile came over Wendy’s face.

“Don’t you see I’m 56 this year I don’t have any needs. It was only that I didn’t have anyone to share my life with that I thought I did. I’ve come to realise that I don’t need those material things that I thought I wanted but what I needed was a strong, sensitive person that I could care for.”

Jeannie shook her head in disbelief. What a waste!

It’s funny how things turn out sometimes.

John Audet

Strength of Will

Strength of Will

A strong will should not be confused with narrow mindedness. In fact it could be said to be the almost opposite. A narrow mind will take a belief and follow it religiously. It will go down a path that excludes all other concepts because it fears complications and challenges. This type of attitude requires the security of what it knows and with that comes familiarity and a bond. It stays within those confines acting in the absence of all else. Its rules clearly defined.

But a strong will does not do this. It concentrates on each thing in its own right. It is able to focus and appreciate every endeavour; thus opening the expanse of your inner consciousness that will give you confidence and experience. And as this confidence grows you become more receptive to different ways of seeing things and develop the ability to differentiate what is necessary and what is not. As your strength of will improves so does the achievement of your objectives.

Concentration of will is the key to developing inner strength. How strong you become depends on how much value you put on being true to your own nature. When you concentrate your whole being on any given task you will take the steps necessary to do it well. Everything within you is absorbed and you become that task. You know nothing and you are nothing, beyond the task at hand. You have peace in your absorption. Your whole perspective is your task.

You must want inner strength and position your will to achieving this result. If you can perceive then your mind will centre on what you need to do. It is your mind that will direct your flow of thoughts to bring about your concentration to the level that will keep you on the same topic until it is completed to your satisfaction. But the mind can be lazy. Even though you have instructed your will to do and focused on how, all will be wasted if you do not apply consistent effort. Practice meticulously what you aspire to do. Your practice must be regular, without aggression and definitely do not compete with yourself. As your inner strength and confidence grows you will find your need for rituals and conventions will lessen. Your ability to focus and scrutinise those things around you will show dramatic improvement. You will be able to see the beauty of the world and deliberate on the intricacies of its detail without excluding anything. Nor will you see your inner power as a threat to your existing beliefs. Your ability to see without fear will show and teach you things that before you had never known existed. By mustering your analysis you will experience a mindfulness of body and the abstractness of thought in all things around you.

It begins by:

Concentrate your will,

So that you become strong.

Concentrate your mind,

So it does not act independently.

Concentrate your efforts,

So that you maintain a consistency of purpose.

Concentrate your analysis,

So that you can see beyond the obvious.

Concentrate your being,

So that you can appreciate things for what they are.

John Audet

An Attitude of Happiness

An Attitude of Happiness

 

Those of us that are not happy all the time except on those rare instances when someone close to us dies or a bad incident takes us by surprise; if happiness is not the dominant tone of our ordinary life, it is simply because we do not want it to be. We do not want it as much for example as the enterprising businessman wants money or a politician wants power or the student who seeks knowledge. Those of us that are willing to pay the price in prudent planning of his daily activities and the relentless exclusion of indulgences that cost more pain than they can return, can achieve happiness. Whoever will cut out remorselessly the things in his past life from which he cannot find pleasantness and rid himself of those things that cause him to give rise to distress. Whoever is willing to pay this price for happiness can have it just as soon as and just as often as he puts in the effort and applies his efforts consistently. If anyone goes about in this world in a chronic state of unhappiness it is his shortcoming not the burden of his circumstances. For there is no one whose circumstances are so bleak that another person, in those same circumstances, would not find a way to be happy. I doubt whether anyone can be fortunate enough to have a close family and friends and be content that another person in those same circumstances would be gloomy and a source of misery to everyone with whom he came in contact with. Happiness is like an auction. It is sold in lots to suit the purchaser whenever he bids high enough. And the price is not exorbitant. It is merely the prudence to plan for the simple pleasures that can be had for the asking and the resolution to cut off the gratifications that come at too a high determination. Then to develop the ability to stop dwelling on the negative experiences that life throws our way and amputate them the instant they develop.  We need to guard against worry and anxiety from the moment we feel their approach to spread their deadly poison. But to live in a present from which profitless regret and unprofitable anxieties projected from the past or borrowed from the future are absolutely banished.

It is high time to treat melancholy, depression, gloom, fretfulness, unhappiness, not only as woeful diseases but as inexcusable and refuse to wimp and wine through this glorious and cheery world making ourselves a burden and nuisance to our friends. If we are so much as tempted to such a melancholy existence it is because we are too stupid to cast out these devils. With the right help, a little hard work and the right attitude they can be eradicated for ever.

John Audet

Focus

Focus.

 

Centre your mind and let it be as one.

Become the object of your attention, become the light.

Study every detail, every part.

See the joy, the ecstasy, the movement, the stillness.

Know every colour, every sound, every arrival, and every departure.

Learn how the seasons influence things as well as the rain and the wind.

To see it you must be it. Then you must let go and be as one.

Take the initiative, take the first step.

Let your analysis decide. Then begin the appreciation process.

See what you are looking at. Study it in its entirety. See every detail. Do not expel peripherals but let them pass through unimpeded and undirected. Know that there are others around but give them no mind and follow your single objective.

Your conscious mind may set your objectives but it is your subconscious mind that will take you there.

John Audet

Imagination

Imagination.

 

Imagination is the workshop of the mind. It is the place where our desires are given shape and form and ultimately the course of action we need to take to acquire what we want. There seems to be two basic types of imagination.

Progressive imagination which works from an existing starting point. That is, we already know what we have but develop and improve it in a new combination, style, colour etc. It draws on our experience and education and observations of life and circumstances. Sometimes by the time we are finished we have a completely different model to what we began with.

Creative imagination works by direct communication with the infinite capacity of the Universe. This is where our hunches and inspiration come from, where we find completely new ideas and different paths. It is the facility where we pick up the vibrations of others and tune into their thoughts and communicate at a different level. It works when the conscious mind is stimulated by a strong desire and strong emotion. Our individual creativeness becomes more receptive and alert to all kinds of vibrations, whether we think they are useful or not, the more it is used. We excel in our creativeness the more we allow it to play its part in our overall development.

Everything begins as an intangible form of energy and thought impulses are forms of energy. Your only limitation is the one that you set. Success comes by creating the present expectation that you already have what you want. A burning desire, with the help of your imagination, will be transformed into its equivalent material form.

John Audet

Decision Making Mastering Procrastination

Decision Making.

Mastering Procrastination.

 

The ability to reach quick and definite decisions is the enemy of procrastination. Putting off making a decision until a more suitable time or reducing your stress level by placing it in the too hard basket for now is a persistent ailment of those who fail in life. There are undoubtedly those who cannot make timely, informed decisions when they need to be made. Possibly the  main retardant of those people who fail to reach their goals is the way that they are easily influenced by others be it family, friends, acquaintances, experts, opinion polls, media, etc. Other people, well-meaning or not, will always have an opinion on anything you do and undoubtedly offer you advice. Here are some guidelines that may help you to be more decisive.

*When the opinions of others influence you unduly you are acting out their desires and you have no real desire of your own.

*Keep your own counsel; discussions should be only take place with those involved in your undertaking.

*Play things close to the chest. The only outside help you need is that which you ask for. Friends and relatives can be the biggest wet blankets with their opinions and ridicule and can destroy your confidence.

*Secure your research without necessarily letting anyone know why you need this information.

*Keep your eyes and ears open but your mouth shut.

*Listen if you want to know more.

*Wisdom is usually displayed through silence.

*It is not what we think that matters most but what we do.

*The importance of any decision depends on the courage it takes to make it.

John Audet

One With Heaven

One With Heaven

 

If you have grasped your purpose in life then what is the point in trying to make life into something it is not and does not want to be.

If you have grasped the purpose of your destiny, then what is the point in trying to change it through learning.

If you wish to care for your body, first of all take care of material things, though even when you have all the things you want, the body can still be uncared for.

Because you have life, you must take care that it does not abandon the body.However, it is possible for the body to retain its life, but still not be sustained.

If you believe that simply caring for the body will preserve life but is not sufficient to sustain life, why do you continue to do this? Your body may be worthless, but nevertheless it cannot be neglected.

If you wish to sustain the body then leave the world that claims your ownership

For by leaving it you can be free from useless commitments

And being free from useless commitments you can find peace.

When you find peace

You can be born again

And, being born again, you approach the way.

So why should you leave the pathetic troubles of this existence?

If you leave the worthless troubles of this existence

Your body will not be wearied.

If you forget the anxieties that life brings

Your energy will not be damaged.

Thus, with your body and energy harmonised, you can become one with heaven.

John Audet

Custom and Convention

Custom and Convention

 

Everything that groups together or expands out of necessity and takes on the mantle of civilization is not necessarily a part of it but merely encased by it. These man-made conventionalities are often regarded as our very essence. And it is true that the greater the fool the deeper is his conviction that the conventional is the core culture, where it is not considered in good form to do this or to do that or to say this or to say that and in some cases disagreement is considered to be an act worthy of punishment. Such things are spoken of as marks of high civilisation by those who conform to these dictates and even higher is the culture that civilisation gives rise to; so out of logic is created the differences between the cultured and the uncultured. So whether one praises or condemns the differences between civilization and culture in these matters; it is well for a man to know his own mind for himself. For most of us in our own very clandestine and small way try to rebel against these enforced conformities though we are careful not to go too far and be guilty of the crime of eccentricity.

Whilst we submit to these rules of order; they constitute a tyranny under which we fret and secretly pine for escape.

Custom can be a tyrant.

John Audet

Just Appearances

Just Appearances

 

Everything has an image, sound and colour; but these are just appearances.

So how is it possible for one thing to be different from another and why is it that some things are considered more important than its alternative?

Are they not all sounds and colours and nothing more?

But everything is born from what is formless and descends into what is changeless.

If you understand these words then there is little that can interfere with your path.

It means being able to reside within limits that have no limit, be secluded within boundaries which have no beginning, ramble to were both the beginning and the end of all life is; combine and harmonise your essential nature and by following this path commune with the origin of all life.

You will guard your unity with heaven, your spirit will be without fault and thus your understanding of all things grows.

John Audet

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