John Audet

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Of all the Things

Of all the Things

 

Of all the things which Wisdom procures for our happiness in life by far the greatest is the acquisition of friendship.

We ought to look for people to share our time with

Before we look for artificial pleasures and indulgences because to do so without a friend is the life of a scrounger.

 

Is the procurement of love the ultimate act of selfishness?

Do we love another except for our own interest?

 

A foolish life is restless and disagreeable and is wholly engrossed with the future.

We are born but once

Twice we cannot be born and for everlasting this person we are today must cease to be.

But those who are not master of today puts off the right time.

Procrastination is the ruin of all life and therefore each of us is unprepared at death

He who does not live for tomorrow will meet what the future holds more pleasantly.

John Audet

Ariah Park

Ariah Park

 

 

“Old is old. There is no getting ‘round it.”

She viewed herself in the bathroom mirror.

“Maybe these lights are too bright or maybe a touch more make-up, no, old is old.”

Wendy-Ann Hogstead had the same job for 30 years. A good, well paid position with Helmsley, Helmsley & Helmsley a very large firm of corporate accountants in Sydney. For the last ten years she had been in charge of Acquisitions and Mergers. Most accountants would give their back teeth for such a job but Wendy-Ann found it uninspiring. It was dreary to the point that she felt brain dead. Her life was boring and stagnating. Married twice, both had been disasters. She was a well groomed, slender woman with a good bone and facial structure. She spoke well; she walked well and had excellent taste. She was an attractive 55 year old middle-aged woman. Rarely did she need to wear much make up.

She had a Friday morning ritual; before work she met up with her friend Jeannie for coffee at Koffee Kulture. You know the one. It’s on Willoughby road across from the church that serves meals to the homeless and I think that they are sometimes able to organise a few beds for them. It was a miserable morning cold, drizzly and bleak. It was the sort of morning that if you didn’t have to go to work, there would be no reason to get out of bed. No latté this morning, a long flat black! Jeannie was also single and about the same age with perhaps a few more bumps than would be considered desirable but she wore well designed clothes that made up for that slight indiscretion.

“Why is it so difficult?” commented Jeanie.

“It never used to be like this. Why 20 years ago there was more spice. And men look at the crop of losers!”

“Good looking men that were not afraid to spend a few dollars to take a woman out have faded from the landscape.”

Wendy-Ann gave a ridiculing half-laugh.

“Not like the cheap skates that we’ve both met lately.” Maintaining the smirk on her face.

“They even expect, mind you, for you to pay half the bill when they take you out. The nerve.”

Jeanie was getting a little frustrated.

Wendy-Ann continued.

“I just want to meet a decent, good looking bloke. He doesn’t have to be rich, just a good job where I don’t have to look at the prices when I go to the supermarket or wear last year’s fashions. Where we can take an overseas holiday once or twice a year and live in a decent house in a good area. Surely they still exist!”

“And for good sake looks after himself and keeps his weight under control.”

Was Jeannie’s contribution; obviously considering her own body to be perfectly natural and attractive.

The women’s get together ended on the usual negative note. Jeannie took the 257 to Chatswood. Wendy-Ann took the next bus that went to the city and those maddening crowds. But she didn’t go to the office instead she went to Forbes Tavern. Today she needed to think.

“Bit early Wendy-Ann?”

All good barmen know their regulars by name.

“Never too early to sort things out, but I will start with a black coffee.”

Responsibly, she rang the office to say she was not coming in and began to ponder on the life she was living.

By lunch time and a bottle of good South Australian Sauvignon Blanc, at least at $47 a bottle it should be, she had made her decision. That included the time to shoo away the bar vermin who believe that a woman by herself in a bar is fair game.

Wendy-Ann Hogstead arranged her long service leave, rented out her flat and by the following Saturday she was driving over the Blue Mountains towards Mudgee. She was going bush. Though she was not exactly sure where. Her plan, if you can call it that was to stay in country hotels and hope to meet a few locals and find more meaning to her life.

Ariah Park is a nice old town, a village really out the back of New South Wales. I think it is classified as part of the rich Riverina district. It has an ageing hotel, a brick two-storey affair but I cannot tell you what it is like inside because I have never been inside. The publican only opens up when he feels like it. So you have to be lucky to be passing by when he decides to open which is not very often. Obviously a man of independent means. The locals I am told go to the bowling club after five for a drink but there is only a serving back and tables and chairs set up for drinking, very unsociable if you want to get around and talk to other people. The main street where everything is boasts of the usual Diggers Memorial, dedicated to the soldiers to whom we owe our way of life to. Most of the shops are empty and rundown but there is the White Rose café. What small town is without one? But sadly the era of Greek immigrants owning them is long gone. There is a sort off collectables store that opens on Fridays and Sundays. An op shop/museum and some sort of shop selling mostly  food although the Post Office sells bread all $4.50 a loaf that’s the same bread I can buy from a supermarket at  $1.50 and there is a bit of a Produce come Hardware store. But the town is activity minded and boasts a swimming pool, tennis and netball complex, a large football oval with stands and facilities and of course a nine hole sand golf course.

It was on her 2cnd day of looking around the town that Wendy-Ann thought to try the advertised special of the day at the White Rose café; a roast beef roll with chips and gravy for $6.50.

“Come to try out the special, luv? It’s pretty good.” He was half way through his so that made him an authority.

“Same for you, dear?” A female voice rang out from somewhere out the back.

“Yes, please.”

“Take a seat, I’ll be right out.”

There was one table and 3 chairs or she could go outside and sit in the car and eat it.

“Do you mind if I join you?” was the timid request.

“Course not, Luv. My names Malcolm but everybody just calls me Mal. What’s yours?”

“Wendy-Ann.”

“I reckon ‘round here Wendy mint be the go.” She was taken back. A man in his early sixties, bald not shaved like middle-aged men do to hide their lack of the symbol of virility. He was quite a bit shorter, maybe 3or4 inches, than she was and a decent size gut that hung over the top of the belt on his shorts. Dressed rather poorly, by her standards. His hat, which was resting on one of the chairs, was grubby and out of shape. Even though she would not have been seen dead with the likes of Mal elsewhere else he was pleasant in his manner and they got into conversation together which couldn’t be helped sitting at the same café table.

“What do you do for a living, Mal?”

“I buy and sell old farm equipment to antique businesses in Melbourne and Sydney.”

“Is that regular work.”

Mal laughed.

“It is when I can get it. But I only have to worry about myself so it doesn’t matter too much.”

“You don’t have a family?”

“I went to Vietnam and stepped on a mine which affected the lower part of my body, so I decided that it would be unfair to get married when I couldn’t do the right thing and sire children. So I have remained celebrant and a bachelor.”

Wendy-Ann was intrigued by Mal’s down to earth honesty.

“If you like our town well enough and figured on staying I reckon someone like you would go well in the collectables business around here.”

“It’s a thought, maybe.”

She couldn’t get it out of her mind, what a good idea and if Mal was prepared to help her….”

What with Wendy’s accountancy background and Mal’s flair for the unusual The Teapot Shop was born. Selling old, collectable, tea pots preferably with family history attached and related tea making accessories, after all the area had been first settled by the English and Irish. So there was bound to be a good supply of stock. Mal arranged for Wendy to rent a vacant shop in the main street which had a small one bedroom flat attached to it. To help her get started he spoke to the owner who gave her the first six months’ rent free.

“It’s good for the town.”

This was with the proviso that she stayed at least 2 years and gave it a fair go.

Things started off fine but when things slowed down with fewer tourists during the winter months, she developed a cash flow problem. She was unable to continue buying stock. Mal as usual was full of good suggestions.

“What about extending your range to collectable silver spoons? A lot of country women collect silver tea spoons particularly when they have been given as trophies from the different Bowls clubs. It will give you a local trade rather than just relying on the tourists.”

And so an intimate relationship grew between two unlikely people; Wendy the sophisticated big city lady and Mal the plump, short, old, basic country bloke.

Jeannie came up for the October long week-end.

 Over coffee on the Monday morning before Jeannie went back to Sydney she felt the need to talk to her friend…

“Wendy-Ann I’m only telling you this because you are my best friend…. but how could you get involved with such a man?”

“Because…”

Jeannie interrupted.

“He’s such a looser. He’s got nothing>”

“Mal takes care of me.”

“How? He’s got no money or property not even a steady job.”

“Whatever he lacks I have.”

“Well what about your physical needs? His injuries have stopped that for 40 years.”

There was a nasty snicker in her tone.

“Oh Jeannie,” a big smile came over Wendy’s face.

“Don’t you see I’m 56 this year I don’t have any needs. It was only that I didn’t have anyone to share my life with that I thought I did. I’ve come to realise that I don’t need those material things that I thought I wanted but what I needed was a strong, sensitive person that I could care for.”

Jeannie shook her head in disbelief. What a waste!

It’s funny how things turn out sometimes.

John Audet

Strength of Will

Strength of Will

A strong will should not be confused with narrow mindedness. In fact it could be said to be the almost opposite. A narrow mind will take a belief and follow it religiously. It will go down a path that excludes all other concepts because it fears complications and challenges. This type of attitude requires the security of what it knows and with that comes familiarity and a bond. It stays within those confines acting in the absence of all else. Its rules clearly defined.

But a strong will does not do this. It concentrates on each thing in its own right. It is able to focus and appreciate every endeavour; thus opening the expanse of your inner consciousness that will give you confidence and experience. And as this confidence grows you become more receptive to different ways of seeing things and develop the ability to differentiate what is necessary and what is not. As your strength of will improves so does the achievement of your objectives.

Concentration of will is the key to developing inner strength. How strong you become depends on how much value you put on being true to your own nature. When you concentrate your whole being on any given task you will take the steps necessary to do it well. Everything within you is absorbed and you become that task. You know nothing and you are nothing, beyond the task at hand. You have peace in your absorption. Your whole perspective is your task.

You must want inner strength and position your will to achieving this result. If you can perceive then your mind will centre on what you need to do. It is your mind that will direct your flow of thoughts to bring about your concentration to the level that will keep you on the same topic until it is completed to your satisfaction. But the mind can be lazy. Even though you have instructed your will to do and focused on how, all will be wasted if you do not apply consistent effort. Practice meticulously what you aspire to do. Your practice must be regular, without aggression and definitely do not compete with yourself. As your inner strength and confidence grows you will find your need for rituals and conventions will lessen. Your ability to focus and scrutinise those things around you will show dramatic improvement. You will be able to see the beauty of the world and deliberate on the intricacies of its detail without excluding anything. Nor will you see your inner power as a threat to your existing beliefs. Your ability to see without fear will show and teach you things that before you had never known existed. By mustering your analysis you will experience a mindfulness of body and the abstractness of thought in all things around you.

It begins by:

Concentrate your will,

So that you become strong.

Concentrate your mind,

So it does not act independently.

Concentrate your efforts,

So that you maintain a consistency of purpose.

Concentrate your analysis,

So that you can see beyond the obvious.

Concentrate your being,

So that you can appreciate things for what they are.

John Audet

Our Sixth Sense

Our Sixth Sense

 

Our sixth sense is one of the more obvious ways that the Universe communicates with us. And it often seems to come about without any direct effort or request on our part. This instinct is a direct communication from a Universal consciousness and does not always fit into the pattern of what logic suggests. Our sixth sense will seek to protect us by giving us feelings of danger or thoughts that may open the doors to see opportunities when there may not be any evidence to suggest that there are so. But nature never goes outside its own decrees and though we don’t know all her tenets, all things follow in a natural progression. This little understood potential exists in everything from the smallest particle to the greatest thing in the universe.

We are what we think we are. By studying the characteristics of those we respect we can nurture those traits in ourselves. By choosing the right role models we can expand our own possibilities.

We become capable of picking up vibrations, thoughts, feelings that are emitted by those we admire. It is often through our emotions that these vibrations are realised. The deeper the emotion the more receptive we are to a thought being received by an open and cloudless mind.

All stimuli begin with desire. There are things we cannot perceive by any of the five senses that should remind us that there are other processes at work in the Universe. Factors that can help us in our journey through life that are both unseen and intangible.

John Audet

Focus

Focus.

 

Centre your mind and let it be as one.

Become the object of your attention, become the light.

Study every detail, every part.

See the joy, the ecstasy, the movement, the stillness.

Know every colour, every sound, every arrival, and every departure.

Learn how the seasons influence things as well as the rain and the wind.

To see it you must be it. Then you must let go and be as one.

Take the initiative, take the first step.

Let your analysis decide. Then begin the appreciation process.

See what you are looking at. Study it in its entirety. See every detail. Do not expel peripherals but let them pass through unimpeded and undirected. Know that there are others around but give them no mind and follow your single objective.

Your conscious mind may set your objectives but it is your subconscious mind that will take you there.

John Audet

Imagination

Imagination.

 

Imagination is the workshop of the mind. It is the place where our desires are given shape and form and ultimately the course of action we need to take to acquire what we want. There seems to be two basic types of imagination.

Progressive imagination which works from an existing starting point. That is, we already know what we have but develop and improve it in a new combination, style, colour etc. It draws on our experience and education and observations of life and circumstances. Sometimes by the time we are finished we have a completely different model to what we began with.

Creative imagination works by direct communication with the infinite capacity of the Universe. This is where our hunches and inspiration come from, where we find completely new ideas and different paths. It is the facility where we pick up the vibrations of others and tune into their thoughts and communicate at a different level. It works when the conscious mind is stimulated by a strong desire and strong emotion. Our individual creativeness becomes more receptive and alert to all kinds of vibrations, whether we think they are useful or not, the more it is used. We excel in our creativeness the more we allow it to play its part in our overall development.

Everything begins as an intangible form of energy and thought impulses are forms of energy. Your only limitation is the one that you set. Success comes by creating the present expectation that you already have what you want. A burning desire, with the help of your imagination, will be transformed into its equivalent material form.

John Audet

The Matrons Ball

The Matrons Ball

 

You get Driver Reviver stops all over the country. These are places where different community groups serve free coffee, tea and cordial and a small packet of sweet biscuits, if you are that way inclined. They are usually tiny buildings built in rest centres and are aimed at encouraging drivers who are making long journeys to pull over for a few minutes and take a break before driver fatigue sets in. But because they are manned by volunteers, 24 hours a day, they only exist during public holidays and sometimes for part of the school holidays. This depends, of course, on how big a pool of volunteers is available. This is when the bulk of our amateur drivers are on the roads and when driving is at its most dangerous.

I pulled up at one such Reviver Centre on the Bruce Highway up near Mackay. The place did not seem to have too much activity.  From what I could work out the town consisted of a pub/motel and a convenience store and not many people.  A number of which spent a lot of time in the pub.

I was sitting on one of those hard wooden benches in the park under the shade of a large fig tree. I think it was one of those Moreton Bay ones that someone had brought in and planted as a seedling. Minding my own business, enjoying the warmth and gentle, southerly breeze my eyes just naturally closed. I started to reminisce about another time and place not dissimilar to this one.

There was a young fellow from the district who had a real love of history. So much so that he had pursued his interest to the point of going to university and getting himself a couple of degrees. He managed to secure himself a job in Rocky (Rockhampton) at the University there and within a relatively short time he built a reputation as the local history expert. He spent a lot of his free time speaking to the long-term farming families and residents about the stories that had been passed down through the generations. And it seems that such was his knowledge that that he could tell you the happenings and who was involved of every pioneering family around Yaamba. The Royal Oak was the centre of most this activity. One of four pubs that existed at one time which I guess attests as to why it is the only one surviving, now. If you need to know anything about the Yaamba district this was the man to see and the hotel was the place to go.

Mary Bellacanta was a local girl who was not particularly good looking but with good childbearing hips she was the sort of wife material that farmers find attractive and she was in the right age group for a potential husband to be courting her. But it seemed she only had eyes for the quietly spoken and somewhat introverted red-headed Hamish Younger who was also of Yaamba pioneering stock. Mary could trace her family back to 1858 around Yamba. It was a well-accepted fact in the district that the farming aristocracy acquaint and socialise with each other. And the best place to do it was at the annual Matrons Ball. This being the foremost event of the social season and held, naturally, in the back of The Royal Oak. But this important event was by invitation only. Those that were considered to be suitable for attendance were chosen by a committee made up of mature well-fed ladies from the old established farming families, the country aristocracy. Mary’s aunt, Mrs Taylor-Ashford, was the Secretary and Hamish’s mother sat on the committee. Mary was very keen to go and hopefully get another chance to get a step closer to Hamish Younger asking her out. It wasn’t considered, after all, a real date if a girl wasn’t taken to dinner in Rocky. A meal at the pub just didn’t do it.

Now as it turns out with the Bicentennial celebrations going on that year, the State government was keen to compile a more detailed account of local events and the people who pioneered the land. Naturally they contacted our local history guru who was very willing to oblige. So they sent a questionnaire of the types of information they would like to know before they came for a formal fact-finding visit. He and Mary had been school friends and had remained pals even after he had come back from Uni. So it was quite a normal thing for him to involve her in the projects that directly involved the district.

Lisa Taylor, third generation, of Yaamba Taylors was unable to further her education to become a school teacher so her father sent her south to obtain her qualifications. That was in 1902. Lisa returned to Yaamba just a few years before the outbreak of the Great War with her son James and no husband who had died a few years earlier of consumption. Not an uncommon thing in those times. It seems that she had met Jim Bellacanta, an Italian immigrant, whilst studying, they married and Lisa graduated from teachers college in Melbourne. Jim’s darkish Mediterranean complexion would have accounted for James’s olive skin though he is said have had a flattish face unlike the sharpish nose and cheeks of the southern Italian. Like anywhere not everyone who comes from the same region has exactly the same features. About a year after returning to Yaamba Lisa remarried and did rather well for herself financially but she did not have any other children. James kept his father’s name and a dynasty from his many children has extended throughout the district. So the story goes.

Early colonial records are often vague. Which of course is why a local-knowledge person was so important; to put the real personalities into the cold facts of history. After the meeting with the officials the two friends got together. Mary was absolutely flabbergasted.

“We can leave things the way they are and not create a disturbance.”

“No, we will stick with tradition.”

“And Hamish?”

On the night of the ball after the debutantes had been presented.  The Ladies of the committee had ordained, according to custom, that all the available spinsters attending should have a part of their pioneering dynasty read to the assembled gathering.  And that his being the celebration of the bicentennial year of European settlement to be read out by their chaperon for the evening.

When it came to Mary’s turn Mary’s chaperon and  well-known historian stood up proud and began his oratory. He began, naturally enough, with Chips Taylor getting his grant of land in 1858. Then he came to the story of Lisa, Mary’s great-grandmother.

“In 1902 Mervyn Taylor suspecting his daughter Lisa to be pregnant to his half caste aboriginal foreman Wooli.” A big sigh came over the room. “Decided that this was for no good and would not only lower the family standing in the community but would be the ruination of Lisa’s life. So he had her sent to Melbourne to have the child and leave it with the nuns to bring up. But Lisa had kept the child and the following year, though there is no record of this, she married Jim Bellicanta, an Italian migrant and a good, kindly provider. At the time, this made it easier to explain why Lisa had not returned after the one year of teachers college that they did in those days. Jim Bellicanta died 3 years later of consumption. A few years later Lisa returned home with James Bellecanta, her son. This story has not been told before tonight. Things have been left to the inevitable presumption that James‘s father was born Italian. James was in fact a quarter caste aboriginal and all the born Bellacanta’s in this district have indigenous blood. And in this year of celebrating our unitedness in assimilation and multi-culturism how proud Mary is of her ties with both the indigenous and immigrant peoples that make up our society and heritage.”

A deadly silence as shock-waves radiated throughout the room. Mrs Younger turned plain-flour white. Mrs Taylor-Ashford’s large frame had a definite sway to it as if she were going to faint. Then slowly a polite handclap from the official party. And the MC introduced the next spinster. Nothing was said. No conversations ensued. Just a few polite nods of the head as Mary made eye contact with people as they walked by.

“I guess that’s torn it”. She spoke quietly.

Then the main event of the evening.

“The available Bachelors may now ask the Spinster of their choice to join them in the Matrons Waltz”

Mary’s heart sank with disappointment her golden opportunity was gone. Then a gentle tap on the shoulder.

“May I have the pleasure”?

She turned to face the most handsome man in the room and before she could collect herself she was waltzing, no gliding through the air, to the recorded music of The Blue Danube. She barely heard the words he said amongst her sheer joy and ecstasy.

“………Change your name to Younger……”

And the nod of “Yes,Yes,Yes”

That was a while ago and times have changed, I am told, but I still go to see Mary and Hamish a couple of times a year just to keep my records up to date.

John Audet

Decision Making Mastering Procrastination

Decision Making.

Mastering Procrastination.

 

The ability to reach quick and definite decisions is the enemy of procrastination. Putting off making a decision until a more suitable time or reducing your stress level by placing it in the too hard basket for now is a persistent ailment of those who fail in life. There are undoubtedly those who cannot make timely, informed decisions when they need to be made. Possibly the  main retardant of those people who fail to reach their goals is the way that they are easily influenced by others be it family, friends, acquaintances, experts, opinion polls, media, etc. Other people, well-meaning or not, will always have an opinion on anything you do and undoubtedly offer you advice. Here are some guidelines that may help you to be more decisive.

*When the opinions of others influence you unduly you are acting out their desires and you have no real desire of your own.

*Keep your own counsel; discussions should be only take place with those involved in your undertaking.

*Play things close to the chest. The only outside help you need is that which you ask for. Friends and relatives can be the biggest wet blankets with their opinions and ridicule and can destroy your confidence.

*Secure your research without necessarily letting anyone know why you need this information.

*Keep your eyes and ears open but your mouth shut.

*Listen if you want to know more.

*Wisdom is usually displayed through silence.

*It is not what we think that matters most but what we do.

*The importance of any decision depends on the courage it takes to make it.

John Audet

Follow the Thought

Follow the Thought

 

Follow the thought, young man

And give it kindling

And the flames will rise and get brighter

With time the more you feed the flames

The more intense you will feel its heat

It will warm you and give you light and

Direction on a cold night.

 

But if you think too much

About your comfort now

You may forget to replenish your stores

And the night will become cold and dark

Once more

And you will not be able to find

The source to keep you warm in the barren darkness.

 

I am old now and my store of kindling is low

And I need to rest more in preparation for

The time when the earth will reclaim my body.

But the embers of my experiences,

Though not darting and exciting, give me

Comfort because when the embers die

All my kindling will be used.

John Audet

Preserve your Vigour

Preserve your Vigour

 

We have an obligation in life is to preserve our vigour and to guard against defiling our life as a consequence of irresponsible and maddening desires. If we can get accustomed in the belief that death is neither good nor evil but merely a transition stage from the body we now live in; and that body, has died and been born many times at different stages, in the course of what is considered to be our life time. Death is the absence of all physical feeling therefore understanding that death is nothing to us makes the mortality of life so much more enjoyable and not by adding years and unlimited time but by taking away the yearning for immortality. For in life there can be nothing to fear to him who has thourghly apprehended that there is nothing to cause fear in what time we are not alive. Foolish therefore is the man who says that he fears death not because it will cause him pain when it comes but because he is afraid at the prospect. Whatever the aggravation in the present causes only a groundless agony by the expectation. Death, which seems to some, the most awful of evil’s is nothing to us seeing that we are not dead yet and when death comes then we are not. It is nothing then either to the living or to the dead for it is not found in the living and the dead no longer exist.

John Audet

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